Awhile ago, I told my mother I was depressed about my work, life, and future. I felt as though I have no direction in my life, she advised to find a husband and have some kids. Wah? And apparently it will solve all my issues. Bam! It’s that simple, marriage, kids, and all my problems will just fade away–all my insecurities, my fears about the future, my work concerns, my financial concerns, it will just evaporate like water on a hot day. Yea, I don’t think it is gonna solve anything.
I think you should concentrate on your goals, school, career change and stability. Then find someone to share the happiness with. The road is not easy, but the reward will be your security to true happiness.
LOL, I think almost all the mothers do so because mine told me the same thing a while ago. Actually she’s steadily telling me to find a husband ever since I’m 18. It’s just like they are rabbits you need to hunt down in the woods. The last time, I had menstrual pain and she told me it’s because I’m not married yet and after I catch a husband I won’t suffer anymore. Should I risk it????
My mother gives me the same advice lol. That is why I’m avoiding to stay in my country !
I think a lot of people reassesses their life at every new year. Seems to me you’re at a crosscroads and want to change something but don’t know what it is yet. I don’t think marriage and kids are the answers now but will add to your problems. You should write down your goals and what it takes to get there.
I never understood that advice before but a little later in life and after finding love, I get it. Not that it solves all or even any of your issues, but just that those things will matter less or won’t matter anymore. At the end of the day, it is love and family that matters most. Your mother means well and I think that’s what she wants for you.