Awhile ago, I told my mother I was depressed about my work, life, and future. I felt as though I have no direction in my life, she advised to find a husband and have some kids. Wah? And apparently it will solve all my issues. Bam! It’s that simple, marriage, kids, and all my problems will just fade away–all my insecurities, my fears about the future, my work concerns, my financial concerns, it will just evaporate like water on a hot day. Yea, I don’t think it is gonna solve anything.
My mom would never tell me that. She doesnt want me to go yet, she even tells it straight forward, Along with my siblings too. I want to have all the fun i can get and travel while at it.Once im content, Then settle down. Hopefully by then my other half wont take too long to.get to me. *sigh* cant rely too much on this agenda of mine because life is unpredictable. But definitely, only say yes to marriage when you want to spend the rest.of your life with that certain someone. Wont solve noyhing jumping into marriages. The sweet fight love shot gun weddings, leave it to movies
I hear it all the time..not just my mom but my aunties too.
My parents never want me to get married and I’m almost 30. lol.
I swear, almost all Asian moms think the same…my mom told me the exact same thing!! LOL…
LOL. I think its pretty interesting but you are right. It wont solve everything. It just might make things more complicated now that you have a hubby and kids to think about. Along our journey in life we take detours to delay what we have to do and sometime we get lost in the process. Eventually you will find your way again so be strong and hang in there. Fighting!! ^^
I think if you get husband and kids you will have no time for concerning about ur own problems but will it solve it? Will it make you happy? Who knows….
I think your mum wants to tell you that your depression will go away when you will start to be concerned by ohter people issues (especially people you care about the most)!
I think that’s an Asian mother thing. It’s like they think that if you’re a girl and you’re not married before age 20 then there’s gotta be something wrong with you or something.
That’s exactly how all my aunts and uncles are too.
I got the same advice too many years ago but not from mom… it might as well be because she complained to the relative and one of them asked me if I had a boyfriend. Boyfriend? I asked. Yes, he said. If you do why don’t you get married then everything will be solved. Ummm didn’t like what I had to say to him and my aunt had to hush him up before I got into him. They guys was crazy to think that by marrying me off it will solved anything.
LMAO — this is the funniest advice .. your mom’s not alone though ..
funny advice i have to say. mine would say the same, you know the typical asian parents. i think that it’ll only worsen your situation because you’ll have more responsibilities and headaches. just relax and take your mind away from your situation. just think of it as everyday is a new day, the past stays in the past and remember to smile everyday. this is what i do because i do have some stressful days and i try to think of what is going on now and not think back to what happened. i just try to be positive about the situation and i’ll forget what happened.
lol………….that’s how all mothers think………………………they think it’s the best and only way out………….lol…………………….mine says the same……………….it’s not absurd anymore it’s just funny cuz they still think like that……………….i’m not married either and i agree marriage is not the way out if you aren’t feeling good at the moment………………..take it in stride, smile and be glad that your mom still says those things cuz sometimes it’s the best thing to hear…………it makes you want to not think about it and work harder to achieve what it is you are looking for………… ^_____________^
For some weird reason i already thought you were married and have kids. Guess not
It’s what Asian parents do, to them, that’s logical, to us, it’s definitely absurd. With my parents, they want me to have goals and a career, they want me to pursue a career I would be proud to have, and to be respected at. My mother and father are so against relying on a a husband or boyfriend, they always tell me I have to rely on myself first before I rely on someone else because one day, it may fall apart and you’d have only yourself to pick up the pieces whether it may be emotionally or financially. You’d just never know. But never, ever, get married just to solve your future problems even if advised by parents. Lol. Doing that will only cause more problems.
ahh asian parental advice is universal – find yourself a rich husband and you’ll find happiness.
a lot of the married people i know are pretty miserable …
my advice, take a break from life, go on a well deserved o/s holidays and re-assess your options =)